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Stresses of Divorce

Getting a divorce in New Jersey can be a stressful time for both parties. There are many issues that must be dealt with during a divorce. First, a couple generally does not suddenly decide to get divorced for no reason. There has to be an accumulation of problems, large and small, that lead to the decision that they can no longer stay married. These issues can increase the amount of stress that a couple feels and a divorce is the breaking point. These feelings do not end with the decision to get divorced. The disagreements that spurred the couple to determine that their time together is at an end will be exacerbated by the divorce proceeding. There are the financial circumstances that must be sifted through with each side wanting their fair share. Both will likely have to pay for an attorney which will lead to more bills. If finances were part of the reason for the divorce, these problems and worries will rise as the divorce moves forward.

With emotional issues such as adultery or physical issues like addiction, the pressure from these aspects of a marriage can cause emotional trauma. With children involved, the worry can be too much to bear and result in psychological manifestations. Who will have custody of the children? Where will each party live? How much is alimony, child support, spousal support and the separation of the assets going to cost? What will other people think when they find out about the divorce? These all pile up in the mind of the person getting a divorce and can cause what is known as divorce stress syndrome.

Divorce Stress Syndrome

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Because of the emotional toll divorce takes on both parties, there can be such symptoms as depression, insomnia, physical pain, panic attacks, and illness. Stress has a negative influence on a person's overall health and a significant amount of stress. This can affect both men and women. While a woman might have certain concerns having to do with the children, a man might feel other kinds of emotional problems such as anger and rejection, as well as worrying about the financial ramifications of divorce and the lack of close contact with their children. The aftereffects of any emotional time are difficult to quantify. There are still those who do not believe that people returning from combat suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from what they've seen and had to endure. Therefore, it is not surprising that there is a question as to whether divorce stress syndrome actually exists. Much like the death of a loved one, there is a grieving process that has to be experienced. With a divorce, there will be the same type of grieving process, but it will be coupled with the other issues that are prevalent in a divorce.

Solutions For Divorce Stress Syndrome

The first step is to understand that there is nothing wrong with the way you are feeling and, more importantly, there's nothing wrong with you that can not be taken care of through proper treatment. Talking to someone like a licensed psychologist or treatment specialist will help you get through these feelings of stress that are accompanying a divorce and making the situation exponentially worse. In some cases, like with depression, medication can be prescribed to help. When you have a problem, asking for help is sometimes the only solution and if a divorce has you feeling out of sorts, speaking to qualified professionals may be the first step toward getting back to normal.

Speak To An Experienced Ocean County Divorce Lawyer

If you or a loved one are from Ocean County, Monmouth County or anywhere else in New Jersey and are showing symptoms of divorce stress syndrome, the attorneys at the Law Firm of Villani & DeLuca, P.C. in Point Pleasant Beach, New Jersey, can help. There is no shame if having an emotional problem and feeling the aftermath of a divorce in ways you do not quite understand and are unsure of how to deal with. What can be a shame is not doing anything to solve the problem. Feeling stress due to a divorce is a natural occurrence that happens to a large number of people who have gone through the process. Villani & DeLuca, P.C. are experienced with people who are divorcing and can assist you.

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Whether you're from Brick, Barnegat, Brielle or any other town in New Jersey, Villani & DeLuca, P.C. can provide advice for dealing with your divorce stress syndrome. Call 732-751-4991 today.

Vincent DeLuca, Esq.

As a founding partner at Villani & DeLuca, Vincent DeLuca is one of only a few Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney in Ocean County, New Jersey. Mr. DeLuca has helped many clients navigate the delicate details of their own divorce. Mr. DeLuca is also a trained divorce mediator and collaborative divorce attorney. Call today at (732) 751-4991 to speak to Mr. DeLuca or one of our experienced NJ Divorce Lawyers.

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