The Job Of An Adversarial Attorney And How To Handle Them
In cases in which the couple is agreeing on most issues, it might not even be necessary to go to divorce court. With mediation, the couple can have a collaborative divorce with the help of third-party mediators and hire attorneys who are not interested in battling with the other side at every turn. There are times when this is possible but other times the opposing attorney will take an adversarial approach and make your life and the life of your attorney difficult when trying to come to an agreement to end the marriage. An adversarial attorney will use a variety of tactics to try and get everything possible for their client. There could be the dredging up of incidents from throughout the marriage that might be designed to garner a reaction from you and your attorney. There might be things said that are twisted to sound worse than they are. The children could be dragged into it in a negative manner. All of this is done so the attorney for the other party will get what the client wants.
The mere word “adversarial” has as its synonyms confrontational, argumentative, accusatory, and combative. It may not be personal with the adversarial attorney, but it is his or her job based on what the client wants. The best way to respond to an adversarial attack by the attorney representing the other party is to remain calm. Part of the strategy that the adversarial attorney is employing is designed to get a rise out of you and prompt an outburst that could harm your case. The attorney you hire does not need to be equal as adversarial, but the attorney must also be able to retain court decorum and respond effectively to the attacks made by the adversarial attorney.
Speak To An Experienced New Jersey Divorce Lawyer
If you or a loved one are in the process of getting a divorce in Ocean County, Monmouth County or anywhere else in New Jersey, it is important to speak to a qualified divorce attorney from the Law Firm of Villani & DeLuca, P.C. in Point Pleasant Beach, New Jersey. Simply because the person from who you are getting a divorce has hired an attorney that is adversarial and is trying to extract everything from the marriage that is possible from assets to property, to the children, does not mean you have to respond in a similar fashion to make the situation worse. An experienced lawyer who knows the way around a courtroom and can deal with every possible situation is how an adversarial attorney should be handled. Not taking the bait provided by the adversarial attorney is not a sign of weakness, but of intelligence. Your lawyer will maintain focus and rely on the facts rather than theatrics with an ulterior motive.
Other Resources
Divorce Arbitration In New Jersey
No Fault Divorce In New Jersey
Collaborative Divorce vs. Mediation
NJ Family Court Mandated Mediation Program
