Signals That A Spouse Might Be Cheating
There are certain signs to look for when wondering whether your spouse has been committing adultery. Some, as mentioned before, are more obvious than others. If your spouse is spending a significant amount of time on their appearance with a concerted effort to look better, dress better, get in better shape, have an improved haircut and is taking more time to decide what to wear when this was never a priority, then this is a signal that something might be happening behind your back. Social media, text messaging and emails can lead to temptation and perhaps the decision to cheat. If your spouse has recently gotten in touch with old friends that might include an old boyfriend or girlfriend or is spending an inordinate amount of time on the computer, is constantly looking at their cell phone and not paying attention to you, this is a warning sign of infidelity. With the inexpensiveness of pay-as-you-go cell phones, it's easy for a person to have a separate phone with a different number, and you might not even be aware of it. If your spouse's work hours change suddenly and they have to spend extra time at the office when there's no justifiable reason for doing so, this indicates the possibility that there is an affair going on. There could be adultery if the spouse has no explanation for where they were or doing or is acting strangely uncomfortable in a manner that you can sense something is amiss. Other signs could be the smell of an unfamiliar perfume or cologne, clothes that come up missing, medications such as Viagra that were not needed before. Birth control devices found in the home, in the clothes or in the spouse's vehicle make it clear that your suspicions might be correct. These may be more subtle signs that you might not be aware of, but if a neighbor sees your spouse with an unknown person at the home, or you read an email or text message, or actually catch your spouse with the other person—known as the paramour—then you do not need to use suspicion to file for divorce due to adultery, you have all the evidence you need. Spying can be a slippery slope and certain amounts of snooping are in a legal gray area. If you make the decision to tape phone calls or videotape your spouse, it could be a mistake. New Jersey laws are very specific about surveillance and you could be breaking the law, getting yourself in trouble in an attempt to simply validate your suspicions may not make sense.