Individuals who file for divorce quickly'realize that the family courts are vas y different from the municipal courts. Because of the intensely personal nature of divorce, the family courts are governed by many rules that are not applicable in other court systems. In addition, your actions in and out of the courtroom can weigh heavily on the terms of your final divorce judgment. Below are some do's and don'ts on how you should behave during a divorce litigation.
- Do submit requested documents in a timely manner.
Failure to submit paperwork on time may result in your hearing being delayed or dismissed. It can also viewed as a sign of disrespect to the court, which will not help your case. Furthermore, irresponsibility with court requirements may be seen as a sign of irresponsibility in other areas of your life.
- Don't disobey the existing custody agreement.
New Jersey law allows spouses to make custody arrangements while their divorce is pending. Although the agreement is temporary, failure to abide by its terms comes off as spiteful behavior towards your spouse, as well as indifference to the well-being of your children. This is likely to reflect badly on you when the judge considers permanent custody and visitation terms.
- Don't make major decisions until after the divorce.
Major decisions such as long-distance moves, career changes and serious relationships should be put on hold while you focus on your divorce. Moving away, for example, can make it more difficult to travel to court or to your lawyer's office. Career changes may add extra stress and responsibility, and complicate decisions pertaining to alimony and child support. These issues may also be complicated by serious commitments, like getting engaged or living with a new partner.
- Do control your emotions in and out of the courtroom.
Because divorce is a personal matter, your words and actions can have significant bearing on your settlement terms. In addition to being civil in court, you will need to control your emotions in any situation involving your spouse and children. Even private interactions, such as phone calls and online chats can be used against you in court.
At this point, you may be wondering if these tips are feasible within the context of your life. Submitting paperwork, for example, can be difficult when you have kids and a full time job. You may also be worried about your upcoming trial, especially if you have never been to court before. Instead of struggling with these issues on your own, please seek help from the attorneys of Villani & DeLuca, P.C. Our lawyer include certified matrimonial law attorney Vincent C. DeLuca, Esq. The matrimonial law certification is only given to attorneys who have extensive trial experience, along with recommendations from fellow attorneys and superior court judges. This level of experience is essential to obtaining the fairest settlement possible for you and your children. Please consider scheduling a free initial consultation with one of our attorneys.