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Divorce Over Sexual Incompatibility

When filing for divorce in New Jersey there are many reasons that can be set forth. In some cases, the reason for the filing is obvious and it is a “fault” filing. These reasons can include: adultery, desertion, extreme cruelty, addiction, imprisonment, institutionalization, abuse of a physical, emotional or sexual nature, or sexual deviant behavior.

If the filing is made due to “no fault,” then it is likely that the petitioner will cite “irreconcilable differences” as the reason. In order for irreconcilable differences to be accepted by the New Jersey courts, the couple must have issues that have gone on for the prior six months that make salvaging the marriage improbable. But what if there's a reason that doesn't fall into any of these categories but is still viable such as sexual incompatibility?

Sexual Incompatibility As A Reason For a New Jersey Divorce

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While not as prominent as adultery, physical abuse, addiction or imprisonment, sexual incompatibility is a legitimate reason for people to choose to end a marriage. There can be many reasons that this can happen to a marriage. Research into biology has indicated that a difference in the ages of the couple of ten years can eventually give rise to the problem of sexual incompatibility due to changing needs and desires. At some point, what the couple wants and needs will become out of sync and cannot be repaired no matter what they do. Sexual incompatibility might have something to do with not being physically attracted to the spouse any longer because of weight gain, changes to the body or the disinterest of him or her trying to be attractive any longer.

In certain cases, sexual incompatibility is a precursor to other reasons that couples wind up getting divorced. For example, if a husband or wife isn't getting what he or she feels is needed at home in terms of love and affection, there is the temptation to go and get it elsewhere leading to infidelity. While the problems in the home are obvious, that doesn't mean that the husband or wife would be okay with his or her spouse fulfilling sexual needs with another person.

In other instances, the sexual problems can spur abuse, drug use, alcoholism or deviant sexual behavior such as spousal rape. It's not simply about a problem in the marriage with achieving sexual compatibility, it can lead to other issues that spiral out of control and contribute the ending of the marriage.

While it may not be high on the list of reasons for a New Jersey divorce, sexual incompatibility is real and can happen. Marriages can end because of it or the actions that a member of the couple will take to alleviate the stress that can accompany not being satisfied sexually such as committing adultery.

Call A Qualified New Jersey Divorce Lawyer

If you or a loved one are considering filing for divorce in Toms River, Point Pleasant, Jackson, Brick or any other New Jersey town due to sexual incompatibility, the attorneys at the Law Firm of Villani & DeLuca, P.C. in Point Pleasant Beach can help you.

While divorces are generally filed for more overt reasons that are clear as to why it happened such as abuse, adultery, incarceration, drug and alcohol abuse, or abandonment, sexual incompatibility is a reason for people to get divorced too. In many instances people are embarrassed to reveal the true genesis of their decision to get divorced and choose to say that they have irreconcilable differences instead of giving the real reason of sexual incompatibility. However, it does happen.

Regardless of the reason for the divorce, it is still a legal filing and the aftermath of the case can be important with issues such as the division of assets, allocation of properties such as the house and car, alimony to pay for the support of the former spouse, and child support if there are children in the relationship having to be decided. Whether you are from Middlesex County, Monmouth County, Ocean County or anywhere else in New Jersey, there is no need to be embarrassed if you are filing for divorce due to sexual incompatibility.

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The lawyers at Villani & DeLuca, P.C. are experienced and knowledgeable in all kinds of divorce filings and can assist you with your case. Contact Villani & DeLuca, P.C. at 732-965-3404 today if you are dealing with divorce as a result of sexual incompatibility in New Jersey.

Vincent DeLuca, Esq.

As a founding partner at Villani & DeLuca, Vincent DeLuca is one of only a few Certified Matrimonial Law Attorney in Ocean County, New Jersey. Mr. DeLuca has helped many clients navigate the delicate details of their own divorce. Mr. DeLuca is also a trained divorce mediator and collaborative divorce attorney. Call today at (732) 965-3404 to speak to Mr. DeLuca or one of our experienced NJ Divorce Lawyers.

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